November 17, 2016 4:09 p.m. Manila, Philippines
"When someone shows you who they are, believe them." Maya Angelou
This quote is one of the hardest things for me to do and I've been "working" on it for quite some time. I recently had one of my FB memories pop up and it was a picture of the word FORGIVE which I posted after one of my morning meditations last year. The meditation I was doing was an active meditation where I was invoking forgiving others for not being whom i wanted them to be. The quote and the meditation go hand in hand. In my personal life, I like to "assume" (another big no, no that I'll talk about another time) I like to assume that because I act a certain way others who share similar values will also act in a similar way. I trip myself up often, probably most of the time, when I do this. I had to sit down and ask myself why. I then realized that I expected people to meet me where I meet myself and that I placed Anayra expectations of herself, on others. Other people cannot be who I want them to be, they are who they are and I need to forgive myself for expecting others to be something that they are not. The more I can recognize when I am wanting people to be someone they are not, the easier it then becomes for me not to do that. How does this relate to the Angelou quote? It all goes back to the simple premise that most people show you exactly who they are at most times. Our fallacy is that some of us want to see others as what we consider to be the best potential of someone. We can't look at others and see the person we would like for them to be in the future. We need to accept people for who they are now. Just as we need to learn to accept ourselves for who we are now, not yesterday, or who we may hope to be tomorrow.